Going from one child to two
Most mothers wouldn’t know raising two would…
1) Require extra support even though you’ve done it before. Not only do you have one but two littles to care for. Reaching out to your support network and delegating them again. There is often the sense of guilt of not being present enough for each child. And I often encourage mothers (and fathers) to focus on the moments they are present to begin with and change habits and routines to create quality moments over quantity.
2) Having real, down to earth support that is mother centred. Sometimes it nice just knowing the person in your home helping out is really there just for you. No need to host, no need to brush away unsolicited advice, no need to wonder if your needs and feelings are taken into account. You can be rest assured I won’t be there just to hold the baby. I’m here to hold the mother. You.
3) Regular support during the 8-14month period after birth. It gets real wobbly around here as sleep changes and teething start to affect everyone’s sleep. Having regular support in this time is so vital as much as the newborn phase. The grind kind of doesn’t end and there are ways to support you through the various transitions.
When I finished a session recently with a beautiful client all she asked for was time to debrief and be able to enjoy a shower on her own undisturbed. She was a mother with a three old and a 9 month old. She asked to have two 2-5pm sessions with me for Christmas and Santa (her husband) delivered! Her biggest needs over the two sessions were some time to her self for a quiet shower as her husband was working away for a month and limited family support, support around raising two littles, organising/curating/packing the kiddies clothes for their 5 month trip travelling Australia, baby care while mum and toddler had quality time together bike riding in the neighbourhood. Amongst all of that I swept the floor, cleaned dishes and packed away, folded laundry/organised clothes @mariekondo style, cooked baby friendly foods including @villageformama Sweet Potato and Almond Butter Curry and Cottage Pie.
What would you want right now in the form of loving support? Share below!
If you are interested in having me support you in your home drop a message on my Contact page and we can have a no obligation chat.
Love and courage,
Shaadeh Xx
